The marriage was not allowed because the man continued working in tourism, and this was not considered a stable income. Dying ceremony of henna is different according to regions. Marriage is an association that existed since the earliest times and has great importance on human life and society. It is not uncommon that several such visits are paid to a family or girl who’s reluctant to agree to this marriage for one reason or the other. At each phase, the implementation of a variety of common practices, customs and traditions have become obligatory, almost like rules and principles that govern this ritual act. After their affirmative judgment about the girl, time is granted to the prospective bride’s family both to get more information about the prospective groom and his family and to make a decision. In this marriage, a man settles in the home where his wife lives. While children were yet in their cradle, they were promised or “engaged” to each other by their families. Usually in case of inability to pay a dowry for the bride or the absence of a son on the part of the bride’s family leads to this kind of arrangement.In another type of marriage called “Berder” or “değiş-tokuş, değişik” ( exchange, changing) two families may marry their daughter and son to another family’s son and daughter. However, “Görücülük” has been still the main type of interaction enabling marriages is more traditional communities and rural areas. Weddings today in the cities and more modern circles are much more like western style weddings, with a wedding banquet or reception uniting family and friends of the couple. Another type of marriage which was often practiced in the past is “beşik kertme”. Regional variances aside, traditional weddings are marked by the following passages: Planting of a wedding flag, an entertaining gathering for the women of the couple’s families on the night before the wedding day, characterized by the coloring of parts of the hands and feet with Henna (Kına Gecesi), fetching the bride, and the bride’s veil.Before the wedding, as is done in the course of the engagement ceremony, formal invitations are distributed and family, friends and neighbors are invited to the wedding. These stages include religious and even superstitious practices.
To lighten things up, the doorway is sometimes blocked by a male relative of the bride or a younger brother sits on the wooden chest that carries the bride’s dowry, as to not allowing the bride to leave.
Marriage as a term is a continuous union of a man and a woman as husband and wife under all kinds of conditions of life. Even today in some regions the prospective bridegroom is not present at the time of this ceremony. The religious marriage ceremony is performed for the bride and the groom who had returned to home accompanied by the hodja (preacher) of the local mosque.
In this case engagement ring is worn by the bride via a woman coming from the bridegroom’s home. Usually in case of inability to pay a dowry for the bride or the absence of a son on the part of the bride’s family leads to this kind of arrangement. And when the baby’s born, don’t be surprised if the first gifts you receive aren’t cute babygros - but the nazar, or evil eye, to protect your baby from harm.In some places it’s traditional to plant a tree in the name of the newborn baby. The bridegroom’s female relatives too attend this event and are hosted in the bride’s home. Nowadays most of Turkey’s people are Muslims but this is not an obstacle to the fact that Ecumenical Patriarch of Orthodox Christian Church is located in Constantinople (Istanbul) therefore there is a number of active Orthodox Christian churches in Turkey as well as some Roman Catholic Churches. Children who are breastfed by a woman (a custom that was not uncommon in Turkey, when a mother could not breastfeed due to illness or other reasons, especially in rural areas, but has nearly ceased today) other than their mother become her “milk” children and they are not supposed to marry their “milk” siblings. If the man broke off the engagement, usually his former fiancée keeps the presents.